Being a bridesmaid can be fun, but it can also be a nightmare. It’s great to stand up with a friend or relative you care about and support her at her wedding. But bridesmaids also have a lot of responsibilities, from helping to plan the wedding to keeping the bride calm and relaxed on the big day.

And then there’s the dress. Bridesmaid dresses are known for being unflattering and expensive. Some dresses are prettier than others, but if there are several bridesmaids who all have to wear the same dress, it’s sure to look bad on at least one of them.

Marni and Beren have both been bridesmaids in the past. But they’ve also been to weddings where they didn’t have to be bridesmaids. Find which they prefer.